Joshua Peters, your Twin Cities Hypnotist, and today's topic is, "Who's really in control here?"
Yesterday, I was in my office and as I'm finishing up the second to last client of the day, I see a message from my final client, who has just canceled all of his sessions.
Now, this is a new client, and when that happens, part of it really just triggers me. It triggers me and makes me wonder what's wrong with me? Why is this person canceling their sessions? Isn't it going to be worth it to them?
The reality is that, I know that my service is valuable. It empowers people, it changes people's lives.
So who's really in control here? Is the client in control? Able to just cancel his or her sessions at will? Am I in control here? Being able to choose the decisions that I make, the way that I look at myself?
This client, who canceled his sessions, wanted to quit smoking. I find that the clients that most often cancel their suggestions are smokers who are really not ready to quit. They might think that they are the ones consciously canceling those sessions, but the reality is that it's not their conscious mind, it's their subconscious mind. That part of them that takes them either towards pleasure, or away from pain. In this case, their subconscious mind is clearly trying to protect them. It's like, "Whoa. Wait a minute here. We can't quit doing this thing. This is what I do to relax. This is what I do to relieve stress. This is what I do to take a break. Who am I even going to be, if we don't have that habit?"
And so he cancels his sessions. And it triggers me and all that stuff that I just told you about. But I learned a lesson. It's really my responsibility to ensure that the clients that I take on, the people that I chose to empower, are ready for their change.
Like this client who canceled his sessions. He's clearly not ready.
I always do a free phone call or an in-person consultation. And this client said all the right things. He answered all the right questions in all the right ways. He has a young child he wants to be around for. He wants to really make his health better.
But he told me one thing. When I asked him, on a scale from one to ten, how committed was he to quitting, he was between a seven and an eight. If a client's not at an eight for smoking cessation, I'm not going to take them. They just aren't ready. And I should have used my intuition in that moment to tell him, "Thanks but no thanks. Call me back when you're at an eight."
So the truth is, I determine if you're ready. You're applying to become a client. And it's up to me to determine if that client is actually ready to make the change. Without you being ready to make the change, it's not going to happen.
So who's really in control here? Ultimately your subconscious mind is in control. With hypnosis we're able to talk to that subconscious mind and allow it to get in alignment with your conscious mind, so you can have an amazing, powerful, peaceful, happy life. The life that you're looking for.
If you're ready to do something like that, let me know. I'm Josh Peters, your Twin Cities Hypnotist, and I hope you all have a wonderful afternoon. Peace everyone.
The last time we talked, we discussed the subconscious mind versus the conscious mind. Today, we'll learn how the subconscious mind creates these rules or beliefs.
At my last post I talked about how we have a 90% subconscious, 10% conscious, and between that, is the critical factor, a filter that only allows in the reality that matches up to your subconscious beliefs. The question is, how do these subconscious beliefs get created, or who's teaching the children to drive? 'Cause really, that's who the subconscious mind is. It is a child.
There are five ways that you can create a subconscious rule or belief. I'll go over these five ways and give a little bit of demonstrations of how they work based on how my life has gone.
When I learned that the easiest way to make transformation, to make positive, powerful change in your life, to change the subconscious mind is through hypnosis, I decided I wanted to fully explore it. Hypnosis allows you to bypass this critical factor, and speak directly to the subconscious mind to give it exactly what you choose to have it believe, rather than just creating something randomly like that child driving the car, and that never works out well.
There you go. The five ways that you can create a subconscious rule or belief about life.
If you have any questions or comments please post them in the comment box below.
In my last post I explained what hypnosis is. Today we will talk about the conscious mind versus the subconscious mind, the two parts of our mind that create thought, that create belief.
The mind is created of these two parts. The conscious mind is the part responsible for logic, for short-term memory, for willpower. It's the part of your mind that analyzes, that criticizes, that judges things around you ... basically, how we interact with the world. Roughly 10% of our mind is Conscious.
The other side of our mind is the subconscious mind. Really, up until about the age of somewhere between six and eight, our mind is pure subconscious. This is the part of us that creates rules or beliefs designed to keep us safe. 90% of our mind is subconscious.
The subconscious mind learns as much as possible as quickly as possible. It's designed to allow us to survive. Being safe doesn't mean being healthy or having the best version of our life, it just means being comfortable. Perhaps you've had an experience where you may do something that you don't like, however, it's something that you're comfortable with. This is our subconscious mind acting out those internal beliefs.
To communicate from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind, you have to bypass what's called the "critical factor." Think of it as a filter that allows experiences and beliefs to flow from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind. There are five different ways you can bypass the filter: An authority may tell you something as fact. You can have a highly emotional experience that'll bypass the filter. A peer group's beliefs and behaviors will bypass the filter. Repetition, something over and over and over again will bypass that filter. Finally, hypnosis is also a way to bypass the critical factor.
This is the conscious mind versus the subconscious mind, the two parts of our mind that create our reality. Next time, we'll talk more about these five ways of creating subconscious beliefs.
A happy Saturday afternoon, my friends. I'm Joshua Rey Peters, and I help my clients by creating a place, conditions, for them to make change in their life. One powerful way that I do this is through the power of hypnosis. And what is hypnosis? This is a question that's asked a lot and it's a really tough question to answer.
Roy Hunter's book, The Art of Hypnosis, gives us a couple definitions.
The Mosby Medical Encyclopedia defines hypnosis as, "A passive trance-like state that resembles normal sleep, during which perception and memory are changed, resulting in increased responsiveness to suggestion." That's one way to describe it.
Charles Tebbetts defines hypnosis in a little bit different way. He says, "There's no legal definition of hypnosis, that Webster's dictionary describes it incorrectly as an artificially induced sleep." It's not actually sleep, it's actually a naturally occurring state of mind, and it's induced normally in everyday living much more often than it is induced artificially. We're going through hypnosis and hypnotic moments all the time.
Every time we become engrossed in a novel or a motion picture, we are in a natural hypnotic trance. Doctor John Hughes also describes this about hypnosis. He says, "Hypnosis is one of the seven wonders of the modern psychology. No one really knows what hypnosis is, but then no one knows what electricity is either, yet that doesn't deter its usefulness."
These are some different definitions of what is hypnosis. Like Doctor Hughes said, we really don't know what hypnosis is, however, we do know how it works. Hypnosis uses focus and imagination. Using focus and imagination, we are able to speak to the subconscious mind to alter our internal beliefs, and by altering our beliefs, we create change in our mind, change in our body. Change in our body/mind.
That's a quick synopsis of, "What is Hypnosis?" The next thing we'll talk about at another time is, "What is this subconscious mind?"
Quitting smoking can be hard. Most smokers could kick themselves for smoking that first cigarette and wish they had never started. Which begs the question, why did you start?
Three Reasons You Start Smoking
There are three main reasons most people start smoking.
1. To identify or connect with an authority figure
You may have started smoking to identify with a parent, a favorite Uncle, or someone else in your life that represents an Authority to you.
2. To identify or connect with a peer group
Many people find themselves wanting to be like their friends, or a group of people they want ot be friends with. The “cool” kids.
3. To take control or rebel against an authority figure
Often Teens start smoking to rebel against the authority in their life. For many that start smoking later in life (older than 20), it’s about taking control in a situation where they feel out of control
You may find yourself in one or more of the categories above. In the end, all three of these reasons that people begin to smoke are really about one thing - Feeling safe and secure.
The Subconscious Mind
90% of your behaviours - breath, heart beat, habits, etc - all of these are controlled by your subconscious mind who has one job - to keep you safe and secure. Safe and secure doesn’t necessarily mean comfortable or healthy. The main reason people find it hard to quit smoking is that, at a deep level, it makes them feel safe and secure. What if you were able to convince the subconscious mind that it no longer served you to smoke? What if you could become as if you had never smoked?
Smoking Cessation with Hypnosis
The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) suggests it will take 8 to 11 attempts before finding success. A typical smoker will try a variety of approaches: cold turkey, nicotine replacement (nicotine patch, nicotine gum, etc), medications (Chantix, Wellbutrin, etc), or even e-cigarettes. After a smoker has tried everything else, they use Hypnosis. Research shows that the success rate for Hypnosis can rise above 80% when done correctly, as compared to cold turkey (5%), Chantix (14%), or nicotine replacement products (25%)
When you work with me to let go of smoking we use a three session protocol over a period of three weeks to get at the core issues of your habit and release it. We allow your subconscious mind to choose which date to quit, either at the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd session. I find that the more motivated and intelligent you are, the easier it is for you to let go.
Letting go of smoking is one of the most powerful changes you make in your life. Use Hypnosis to make the change easy.
Do you have any questions or comments about this article? Contact me and let’s talk!
Weight Loss and other health related goals are one of the most common reasons a client comes to Hypnosis. Whether one looks to stay motivated about working out or wants to change their diet, Hypnosis can help.
Losing weight is one of the most complex and nuanced issues to deal with. It’s not only about what you eat, it’s about how much you eat, how much you move your body, even how well you sleep. Beyond the external, physical things we do to let go of weight, clients often have deep seated beliefs they hold about themselves that get in the way of creating the healthy lifestyle they desire.
When working with weight loss clients I use a holistic approach. Every client is different and your journey won’t be the same as the next, however I’ve found the following five approaches work best.
1. Focus On Attitude
Having a positive attitude can make all the difference as you make big changes in your life. But how do you do that? Remember, this is a lifestyle change, not a diet. You aren’t sacrificing anything but gaining a great deal. As you shift your thinking it helps to keep your focus on moving towards your definition of health. For example, drinking soda moves you away while drinking water moves you towards health.
2. Focus On Health
You can lose weight and still be unhealthy. Although everyone’s definition of a healthy lifestyle is different there are some basic ways to move towards health. By updating the food you eat, increasing exercise and movement, reducing stress in your life, and getting enough sleep, your you improve your health and naturally lose excess weight.
3. Focus On Activity
Clients serious about creating a more healthy lifestyle go beyond the token weekly workout. They know that a healthy lifestyle is an active lifestyle and find creative ways to keep moving. They may park on the far side of the parking lot to walk more, they may take the stairs rather than the elevator. There are many ways to bring activity in your life including membership at a gym, working with a personal trainer, practicing yoga, working out with a friend (running, walking, racquetball, etc). Again, there is no one right way. It’s about what is right for you.
4. Focus On Real Food
Changing the way you eat isn’t about calories or the latest fad diet, it’s about the quality of your food. Use whole foods, as close to their natural state as possible. Eat when you’re hungry and until you are satisfied (not full). And start with baby steps. If you eat most of your meals at restaurants begin to stay in and cook for yourself one day a week. Increase that until you’re eating 50 percent whole foods, then 60, 70, and 80. Keep changing your habits until 90 percent of your intake is whole foods
5. Focus On Your Motivation
Get real with yourself. Why exactly do you want to get healthier? Make a list of everything you’ll gain by increasing your health and focus on that. Understand and let go of the inner beliefs and limitations that hold you back from the life you want. Create the vision of the future that you are living into.
This last step is crucial for permanent success. Without letting go of the inner beliefs that holds one back the old habits and old ways of being are likely to return.
Hypnosis can help!
My most successful clients know why they want to get healthy and are motivated to succeed. Together we create a plan using Hypnosis to address all of the above aspects of health. Watching a client with an uncertain attitude suddenly change their perspective to one of confidence and perseverance is one of my greatest joys.
If you have any questions or comments about this article please call or email me.
Hypnosis is a state of mind, some call it a state of trance, that allows for incredible things to happen. Stage Hypnotists use hypnosis to create physical sensations, temporary amnesia, and even waking hallucinations. Some Hypnotists work with law enforcement to help witnesses remember forgotten details of an event. Hypnotherapists use the state to create amazing and permanent change with their clients, typically in a very short amount of time.
Mirriam-Webster has the following definition:
"a trance-like state that resembles sleep but is induced by a person whose suggestions are readily accepted by the subject"
Yet hypnosis is not sleep. It is not even a state of eye closure. We are hypnotized many times throughout the day when we are entranced by media, daydreaming, or even driving.
I use the following definition:
“A state of focused concentration that allows one to use an engaged imagination to send instructions to the subconscious mind.”
The imagination is the realm of the subconscious, as logic is the realm of the conscious mind. As a Hypnotherapist I use my words to focus my clients minds and guide their imagination to create imagery that allows the subconscious to make internal change at a level usually unavailable. This allows the client to make large changes in a short amount of time.
It’s not magic, but it sometimes feels like it.
Are you ready to explore how Hypnosis can create change in your life? Contact me now to set up a free consultation.
This is the time of year when I become reflective, looking at what I’ve done in the previous year and what I intend to accomplish in the next. This year I plan to focus on health and creating a thriving and successful practice.
The top five New Year’s resolutions are to: exercise more, lose weight, eat more healthy, drink less alcohol, and stop smoking. Statistics tell us that forty percent of Americans make a New Year’s resolution yet only eight percent actually accomplish their goal. What is the difference between a resolution that is accomplished and one that falls to the wayside? Have you ever heard of a SMART Goal?
SMART Goals is an acronym for a goal written in a Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic, and Timely manner. But what does that mean? Let’s break down one of my goals and make it a SMART.
Rather than the vague “focus on health and create a thriving and successful practice” a SMART goal process requires specificity. So let’s reword my “exercise more” resolution with that in mind:
I will work out at home or the gym every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday until April 1.
SPECIFIC (I will work out)
MEASURABLE (every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday)
ACTIONABLE (at home or at the gym - I have both a gym membership as well as free weights at home)
REALISTIC (I’ve been working out twice a week for the past couple of months so this isn’t too far of a stretch)
TIMELY (I have an end date where I can reevaluate)
Let’s look at the other top New Year’s resolutions and make them SMART:
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What is your 2018 New Year’s resolution?